Are you apologetic for living the way you like? Do you constantly try to do what others like? You’re not alone.
Every other day, I receive so many messages from you all – my queens. Some messages are about how you are not able to be yourself because a certain person from your family or friends doesn’t like the way you are.
Recently, one of the queens told me that a certain loved one feels that she is an attention seeker because she tends to laugh easily and does that quite often, even at the smallest of things. Because her loved one does not like this behavior, she seems to be losing herself slowly. So many other stories share how these people have given up.
Something similar happened to me too. I enrolled in a full-time MBA program. I had never thought that I’d be able to understand Accounts, Finance, and the like after studying the human body and sciences mainly. But to my surprise, I topped the class.
I was extremely happy and expected people around me to be happy too. Even though my family, my in-laws, and my parents stood with me in my happiness, there were so many other people, who I thought would be the ones cheering for me, but they didn’t wish me for so long.
This made me wonder if I was making a big deal out of it and if I shouldn’t be so happy. But just the next moment I realized that it is my right to savor every single achievement of mine.
I have always been an academically driven person and love learning new things. It was a moment of pride for me. But their behavior made me rethink my happiness.
Why should we mute ourselves for people who are uncomfortable with our success?.
It was my moment of happiness and I deserved to enjoy it.
Why should we shy away from sharing our achievements with the world?
“It doesn’t matter how small or big an achievement is. It could as small as accomplishing a simple task that you have been trying to do for so long. Don’t stop doing things you like because others don’t like them.”
I am not saying stop accommodating or adjusting. As a part of society, we all need to adjust. But there’s a thin line between adjustment and sacrifice. You are sacrificing if you are losing your true self.
If you go back and step into your shoes 20 years back, are you what that young girl wanted to be?
If you ask me, I am much more than that. This has nothing to do with fame or money, but with the vision that I had for myself – the level of happiness and contentment I wanted from my life.
No matter what anybody out there says, just live fearlessly. Be immune to others’ words. If your actions or behavior is not hurting anybody, then you’re on the right track.
Spirituality is not about being all good and pleasant. If people don’t like you, it doesn’t make you any less spiritual. People need not like you.
Do what feels right to your inner self. Take a U-turn, delete people who don’t add value, or clear your zone. But just be yourself.
Even Gods like Ram and Krishna made mistakes. He taught us that if you’re a human being, you will end up making mistakes and you’ll still be spiritual.
So, you don’t have to judge yourself all the time. Just be who you are and speak your truth.
